This situation is a difficult one for all concerned. It may be that you or your partner have been having an affair for some time and can no longer stay at home. The feelings for the 'other' person may be too strong or the guilt may be enough to force someone to leave. It may be that a simple 'quick fling' has left its mark and tainted what was a perfectly good relationship.

It is important to try and recognise that we are only human and the pressures of life, working and having a family may often lead us to do things which we may regret, but don't know how to put behind us.

Affairs are not and have never been uncommon - in fact they have often be considered quite acceptable! It is entirely up to the individuals concerned.

As adults we all have a choice that we can make. Is infidelity the end of the line for a relationship or is it just a twist in the path, that although difficult to deal with, can in fact be overcome?

The important thing is to consider the options carefully, before making decisions. In such circumstances it is important to talk to each other and visiting a counsellor may also help clarify the situation one way or another.
Counsellors will provide a good opportunity for you to both be truly honest about your feelings, not only for each other and the family, but also about your past and ways you would like to shape your future. This is not about pointing a finger and apportioning blame. It is about getting to the bottom of the situation and agreeing the best course of action for all concerned.

Counsellors can be found in the yellow pages, through recommendation or see our directory of counsellors to find one near you. Counsellor's fees will vary.

Alternatively 'Relate' can provide counselling and again a fee will be charged.